Tuesday, October 12, 2010

Disaster.

For once, it's not about me. It's swirling around me, but it's not about me. My family is an unmitigated disaster. From my father's quadruple bypass/open heart surgery, to Little Boy on the verge of being kicked out of pre-k, I'm surrounded by Hot Mess.

My dad's surgery was sudden and unexpected, so therefore much more dramatic. My sister & brother are with my mom & dad in Florida thankfully, but that in and of itself is causing some drama. It turns out that my aging father has been digging a rather large financial hole for awhile now. On the cusp of his surgery, he confessed a few details to my mother, who in turn has enlisted my brother and sister to help sort through it all. I think we've only uncovered the tip of the iceberg. It's looking like a rather large iceberg at this point. Not good. Making things worse is my dad's current dementia. No other word to describe it, happened the last time he had surgery too, due to low sodium levels and anesthesia complications. Hopefully his right mind will return soon, but even so, his days as financial manager of his house are over.

Little Boy has been acting out at pre-k, so much so that B. and I have a conference with his teachers next week to see if he will be able to continue. He's been hitting, poking, pushing and biting his classmates. Yes, biting. Behavior you might expect to see from a two year old, but a four year old? Not so much. He and Little Girl are the youngest in their class, which I think is a contributing factor. I hope we can figure out a solution, 'cause if he gets kicked out of pre-k, momma's not going to be happy. At all.

And B.? Driving me nuts. So completely, ridiculously self-involved that I want to strangle him. Or at the very least, chuck his goddamn computer out the window. Things are not good between us right now.

Despite the shitstorm swirling around me, my head remains above water, if only barely. Thank goodness for modern chemistry and the drugs it created.

4 Comments:

Anonymous Antropologa said...

Wow, that all really sounds not good. Shit.

4:47 PM  
Blogger Thalia said...

thank heavens for modern medicine indeed. It all sounds absolutely awful. Hang in there.

4:21 PM  
Blogger Pillarr1 said...

What a horrible situation with your son. I hope he gets to stay in because that would be real hard on you to not have that time while they are in school. It would be hard to have 2 kids home all day. I am glad the meds are working for you. I hope things get better between you and B. Please don't let the difficulties of raising kids tear you two apart. I know it is a rough time but it will get better eventually. I always remember to focus on my husband and pay attention to him. I just make the time. If it means getting a babysitter for a few hours while we go to the movie or go out to eat. I am always on the look out for a good babysitter. My last babysitter moved to another state. I asked my daughter's pre school teacher if she knew of someone who could babysit and help my daughter with her Spanish. She suggested her mother. So now she comes to my house from 8 am to 1 pm. Most days I just go into the bedroom and veg out, surf the net, or watch tv. Sometimes I go out for a run. We all need that time to ourselves. I sure do. I can also call my daughter's former daycare teacher to come over on the weekends if we want to go out. If it is just one Saturday a month try to find someone to come to your house to watch your kids. You will get through this.

10:46 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I can feel your pain. I was in the same (almost) situation with my own son a few years ago. He was four and on the verge of getting kicked out of pre-K too. I was at my wits end and so was my husband. My daughter was two and very busy herself. It was hard, but what I did was turn the tv off. Completely. Well, I did turn it back on after the kids went to bed. I wore those kids out. Everything I did, they did. Including dishes, cooking, dusting, vacuuming (they had little ones). If I was too tired to move, I put on their bathing suits and into the tub they went. This was great because I could bring in some books and little things for me while they played and played. Keep a bottle of bubbles in the bathroom too.

It only took a few days, before no (and I mean NO) more acting out in class.

I hope some of these ideas can help.

10:06 AM  

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