Punch in the gut.
Today’s drama? I’m reeling from news that my beloved sister has chosen to visit my parents in Florida for Thanksgiving, rather than come here to help. I don’t think she understood the scope of our situation, but even if B. hadn’t injured himself my feelings would still be hurt. And they are soooo hurt.
WTF, people?
posted by * @ 8:00 AM
7 Comments:
Well, Florida is awfully nice in late autumn.... Seriously, though, I'm wondering if your sister thought that it might be better to stay out of your way, with some sort of thought that if she came to you for Thanksgiving that you'd make yourself cater to her and have a big Thanksgiving dinner and wind up doing more work than if she didn't come. It sounds like you haven't shared with her just how overwhelmed you feel, and how much you'd welcome her help.
It's hard to ask for help, but if you maintain a facade that everything is just fine, you'll manage, nothing to see here, then the people who care about you aren't going to know that you want them to help. And even when people do know that you want and need help, they still need to be told specifically what they can do to help. Tell them. If anyone asks if there is something they can do to help, enlist them. Ask them to drive to appointments, pick up groceries, babysit.
B. should be tapping his network of friends and colleagues to get help for you.
Finally, have you spoken to your OB about how you're feeling? Depression is a medical issue, and at the very least, you should be on high alert for the possibility of post-partum depression.
You're going to make it through this.
Well that really does blow. Goodness.
Sucks. Totally, absolutely sucks that your sister didn't even check with you first. Is she the sort to just not think about these things?
I agree that you should tell your family. Even if they can't be there for that exact weekend, they should be organizing a rotating travel schedule so that you have some coverage until B. heals.
I am not a churchy person, but this is the kind of situation in which that kind of supportive community is so handy - can you muster any of that up amongst people you know? Especially around the holidays, people love to help out, it's all part of the bigger spirit of giving etc. etc.
There may also be some kind of home health aide service that you can request from the state or through your insurance - doesn't hurt to check it out!
Good luck to you and B.!
Please tell your family you need help. Do you think your mom can come to help you?
Unbelievable. What were they thinking. Ask for help. Friends, family, local church, (even if you don't go to it!) Do you have a neighbor that could pop over and help out a bit?
I'd be ready to hurt someone.
Hope things are getting better - I have tagged you for a blog-thingy, so if you need an excuse to vent, pop over and grab the jpeg and rant all you want!
That really sucks, I am sorry. As others have asked, have you been clear with your family just how much you need their help right now?
hang in there.
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